I’ve always wanted to write about Body Image, how we see ourselves, how others see us, what is considered thin in our fashion driven society and what is the perfect weight.
But the truth is that there is no single answer.
Let me recollect a conversation I had for dinner a few weeks ago with the girls. There were 4 of us, each one saying that her body is not perfect and each one wanting something else…
D – My hips are so wide, I’ve tried everything… running, climbing, pilates, fitness, you name it and they stay the same! At the end I started with massages and when I explained to the masseur what I want, she started laughing at me and said “It is your bone here, see, you can’t go lower then that unless you want your hips removed…”
K – Oh, c’mon D, your hips are just fine! If you ask me, you are even thinner then you should to look feminine. My boyfriend started working with a french company making men sites and he said all women there are not mannequins at all. And look at me – every time I lose some weight my breast shrinks too and I don’t like that, so I prefer being a little bit over the perfect weight, but fit and with breasts.
A – I’m in the fashion industry for a decade now and things have changed dramatically. 20 years ago the models looked normal, just find some photos of the old model generation and you will see. Nowadays they are extremely thin and since we all compare to them, we start believing that sizes 4 and 6 are more then we need. I feel so sick and tired of being on a diet all the time just to fit in.
K – Do not forget the mirrors too. I’m оn the verge of a nervous breakdown every time I see myself in the mirror at the gym. I think they intentionally placed mirrors there that make us look wider, shorter and with more cellulite then ever! Sometimes I get lost what is the true image of me, what I see at home or what I see there.
M – And how about the dress sizes? Did you noticed the change for the last decade? I was always a size M and now all of a sudden I’m shifting between S and M, and trust me I did not lose weight… I actually gained some. It is like a massive fashion industry conspiration to make us feel more thin, while in reality we are not.
D – So, what do we have? The super thin models on one side, the actresses with Rubens shapes, the fashion industrie’s down sizes, mirrors and our own body structure and image to deal with. It is a cause perduta, girls, I’m telling you…
The bottom line is – It is not our bodies that define us. We all have our body structure, our genes, our muscles and just then at the end our weight on the scale to deal with. But we are unique & beautiful and in order to feel that, all we have to do is be fit and eat right. Do not judge by the scale or by comparing yourself to others, work with what you have and feel good with it.
Exercise. Eat healthy. Feel good with it. Make peace with your body. Love it.